15 Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, 16 from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love. – Ephesians 4:15-16 ESV
Some Christians enjoy speaking the truth, but it’s because they get a perverse sense of joy out of correcting others and showing them they’re wrong. These kinds of people use the Bible like a baseball bat to pound the truth into the lives of those with whom they disagree or deem errant in their views. And while the Scriptures are “profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness” (2 Timothy 3:16 ESV), they are not meant to be wielded like a weapon. Yes, later in his letter, Paul describes the Word of God as “the sword of the Spirit” (Ephesians 6:17 ESV), but he intended it to be used against “the schemes of the devil,” not one another.
The truth is vital to the life of the church. In fact, Paul told his young protege, Timothy, “I hope to come to you soon, but I am writing these things to you so that, if I delay, you may know how one ought to behave in the household of God, which is the church of the living God, a pillar and buttress of the truth” (1 Timothy 3:14-15 ESV).
The church of God is to defend and champion the truth. In a world mired in relativity and bombarded by the enemy’s lies, the church is to be the bastion of truth, with the Word of God as its foundation. It was Jesus who said, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free” (John 8:31-32 ESV).
The truth about sin can be painful and difficult to hear, but God has revealed Jesus as the remedy for mankind’s sin problem. The Bible reveals the truth about man, sin, God, and the means of being justified with Him. As the church, we have the truth regarding God’s plan of salvation wrapped up in the gospel of Jesus Christ. We also have the Scriptures, which contain all the truth we need regarding everything from how we got here to where we are going. It is the sole source of truth regarding life and death, sin and salvation, God and man, meaning and hopelessness, right and wrong, and every other issue relevant to our existence as human beings.
But the truth must always be accompanied by love; truth without love can be hurtful and harmful. In Paul’s first letter to the church in Corinth, he reminded them that love was to be a non-negotiable characteristic of their fellowship, as vital as unwavering faith and a strong commitment to the truth.
Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love. – 1 Corinthians 16:13-14 ESV
For years, I only focused on verse 13. I loved its blunt, direct way of commanding men to step up and act like men. It was an in-your-face sort of verse that had a testosterone-laden feel to it. Then one day I happened to notice verse 14: “Let all that you do be done in love.” Oops, I had conveniently overlooked that part of Paul’s command. If I attempt to stand firm in the faith without love, I will tend to come across as dogmatic and prideful, caring more about how I am perceived by others than how much I care for others.
I love how The Message paraphrases 1 Corinthians 13, Paul’s great chapter on love:
If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing. If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love. – 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 MSG
Even good and seemingly godly actions, done without love, are worthless. Which is why Peter warned, “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8 ESV). Telling someone who is unsaved that they are a sinner and condemned to hell might be true, but it would be mean-spirited. Revealing their sinful state without lovingly introducing them to the hope of the Savior would be nothing short of cruel.
In the body of Christ, we are to speak truth to one another, but always in love. Our motivation should never be just for conviction and correction, but for redemption and restoration. Which is why Paul told the Galatian believers, “Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path” (Galatians 6:1 NLT). That requires love.
Paul’s goal for the churches to which he ministered was their growth, but he was not just concerned with numerical growth; he desired their spiritual development. Certainly, he wanted to see more people come to faith in Christ, but he also wanted to see all of them grow in their knowledge of and relationship to Christ.
There is no way for a believer to grow outside the context of biblical community. Christianity was never meant to be a solo sport. Alone, we may grow in our knowledge of God’s Word, but that knowledge will have no outlet. Our increase in godliness is meant to produce fruitfulness, and all the fruits of the Spirit are meant to be given away. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control are all other-oriented and divinely designed to benefit the lives of those around us. Paul delivered a strong admonition to the believers in Philippi, encouraging them to love one another unselfishly and wholeheartedly.
Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any comfort from his love? Any fellowship together in the Spirit? Are your hearts tender and compassionate? Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose.
Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. – Philippians 2:1-4 NLT
God never intended us to live in isolation as Christians. It is together that we make up the body of Christ, with Him as our head. And Paul emphasized that when each part of the body is working properly, according to the Spirit’s gifting, the body grows and builds itself up in love. But love isn’t a feeling; it’s an attitude. It is a relationally based, God-given power to impact another person's life and spiritual well-being. Truth and love are not relative or subjective, and God has not left either one up to us to define. We are to speak His truth, not our own. We are to love others on His terms, not ours. And when we blend His truth with Christ-like love, the body of Christ grows. Just as sun and rain are necessary for crops to grow, truth and love are vital to the spiritual growth and fruitfulness of the church.
Father, like any family, the church can be messy. It is filled with all kinds of people whose personalities and personal opinions can produce friction and fissures. We can each be guilty of speaking for You when we haven’t heard from You. We can take Your truth and misunderstand and misapply it, but all the while demanding that others obey it. Because of our competitive natures, we can turn the pursuit of Christlikeness into an unhealthy and unproductive winner-takes-all contest. We make unflattering comparisons, in a vain attempt to make ourselves look better. We confuse our personal opinions with doctrine and promote our viewpoints as if they were divinely ordained dogma. But You have called us to speak the truth in love. We are never to view ourselves as more significant than anyone else. Pride has no place in the body of Christ. And when I make my personal spiritual growth a higher prioity than the well-being of the body of Christ, I am out of step with Your will. You called me and placed me in a family of faith so that I might grow in the context of community, not isolation. Never let me lose sight of Your sovereign plan to use the church as the foundation of the truth and the environment in which spiritual growth is to take place. Amen
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