Don't!

Proverbs 23b

"Get the truth and never sell it; also get wisdom, discipline, and good judgment.” – Proverbs 23:23 NLT

When our children are young, one of the most common words they hear come out of our mouths as their parents is "don't!" It seems like we are constantly having to tell them what NOT to do. Why? Because they are young and lack the ability to know right from wrong. They are self-centered and live in a world that they think consists only of them. Their desires come first. If they see something they want, they simply take it, regardless if someone else is using it at that moment. If they desire something and someone denies them access to it, they find a way to get it anyway, even if it means disobeying the authorities in their life. Kids have to hear the word, "don't" because they don't know any better.

In chapters 22 and 23 of Proverbs we have a list of 30 wise sayings, most of which are prohibitions or restrictions against particular behaviors or attitudes. They address everything from drinking to the dangers of gluttony. We're told not to cheat our neighbors and not to make friends with someone who has an anger problem. But why do we need to hear all these warnings and commands? Because many of us still lack the ability to make wise decisions on our own. Remember, the book of Proverbs is very practical, providing divinely inspired input for daily living. This is Monday-morning relevant stuff. No religious mumbo-jumbo or spiritual speak here. This is relevant counsel for real life. But if we try and apply these principles to our lives like self-help tips, we are going to be highly disappointed. Oh, they might work for a while, because they are truths from the very throne of God. But we will be incapable of keeping them long-term because we really don't understand their value and we lack the convictions necessary to stick with them. We will be like a child who knows all the rules, but fails to keep them because he doesn't understand the reasons behind them.

The key to all of this is understanding the truth. If we look at these wise sayings without an understanding of the truth behind them, we will simply see them as restrictions that keep us from doing the things we want to do. We will see them as road blocks to our self-satisfaction. We may keep them for a time, because someone bigger and stronger than us told us to, but as soon as we have the chance, we will rebel and reject them. That's why we are told to "get the truth and never sell it; also get wisdom, discipline, and good judgment." The 30 wise sayings are not wisdom in and of themselves. They are the byproduct of wisdom. They are wise because they have come from a wise God and through the life experiences of wise men and women. We are told to get discipline, because without it we will never be able to follow the counsel in this book. We need good judgment, because without it we will never understand or appreciate the value of following the advice found on the pages of the book of Proverbs, or anywhere else in the Bible for that matter.

There comes a time when we no longer have to say, "don't!" to our children as much as used to. Why? Because they have grown in wisdom, discipline and understanding. They have reached a point where they understand the reason behind the restriction. They have grown wise in the ways of the world. For some of us, reading this list of 30 wise sayings leaves us nodding our head in agreement because we already know the truth found in them. Others of us may read them and think, "This is hard stuff, I don't know if I can pull it off or if I even agree with it." They sound restrictive and unattractive to many of us. Because we lack wisdom. We need understanding. We are short on discernment. And all these things come from God. We need to get to know Him better. We need to know His heart so that we can see the truth contained in His Word. When our children are young and we tell them "don't!," they think we're mean. But as they grow older and get to know us better, they realize just how much we love them and have their best interest in mind. The same is true with God.

Father, at the end of the day, I need to understand just how much You love me. I need to see life through Your eyes, with the help of Your wisdom, with Your understanding, and assisted by Your discernment. While so much of what this world offers up seems attractive and appealing, it is dangerous and could do me harm. I need to trust You when You say, "don't!" I need wisdom, understanding and discernment to see life and your rules for living life in the right way. I need to know Your heart. Amen.

Ken Miller

Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

Trust In the Lord.

Proverbs 22

“I am teaching you today – yes, you – so you will trust in the Lord.” – Proverbs 22:19 NLT

The book of Proverbs is not just some compendium of ancient wisdom writings. While Solomon wrote and collected many of these sayings from the wise men of his day and from those of the past, the real hero of this book is the Lord. This was not just a book of wise sayings meant to fill the heads of its readers and provide them with some self-help tips for living more successful lives. This was a book about God and man's relationship with Him. The wisdom Solomon talks about is God's wisdom. The understanding, discernment, knowledge and common sense he describes and encourages his readers to seek come from one place and one place only – God. Solomon wants his readers to hear his words and listen to them, but he has an ultimate reason behind his pleas. He wants them to trust in the Lord. He wants them to put their confidence in God. The sayings found in the book of Proverbs reveal the truth of God and expose the lies of this world. They paint an accurate picture of reality. They provide practical, real-life advice about everyday affairs because they reveal truth as God sees it and life as God intends it. While the world takes advantage of the poor or simply disregards or ignores them, God says they have value and are to be protected and provided for. God tells us that children are born fools and require persistent, aggressive training. God exposes the truth about immorality and the danger it poses to us when we lack His wisdom and discernment. God tells us the truth about everything from money and relationships to the value of a good reputation.

But the point of it all is that we might place our confidence in God. We need to trust Him and nothing else. This world is deceitful, distracting, and potentially dangerous. Without Him, we are incapable of surviving in this hostile environment. Left to our own devices we will make unwise choices, and fail to see life as it really is. Many of the sayings in the book of Proverbs make perfectly good sense, while others seem nonsensical or even untrue. Many of the warnings against the wicked never seem to come true in daily life. They seem to prosper and succeed, not suffer. But we need to trust God when He tells us that their way leads to death and destruction. When we read that "true humility and the fear of the Lord lead to riches, honor and long life" (Proverbs 22:4 NLT), we are tempted to question the truth of a statement like that. We can easily conclude that it's not true because we have yet to see it played out in our own lives. But we need to trust God. We need to believe that He will honor those who humbly place their trust in Him – on His terms and in His timing.

When God tells us not to make friends with angry people, we need to trust Him. When He tells us NOT to guarantee another person's debt, we need to trust Him. When He tells us not to cheat our neighbor or attempt to take advantage of another person through deceit or trickery, we need to trust Him. We he tells us He will defend the poor and deal harshly with those who exploit them, we need to trust that He will do what He says. Think of it this way. When are children are young, we give them instructions. We teach them and expect them trust us and do what we say. We have their best interest in mind. We tell them to stay away from the street and not play near it. But it looks so tempting to them. They see no danger in it. But their well-being is dependent on them trusting us. When we tell them not to touch a hot stove, we want them to trust us so that they will not encounter the potential pain associated with their action. But sometimes they refuse to listen and they go ahead and do what they want to do. And they suffer as a result. God knows that is best for us. He is all-wise, all-knowing and all-loving. Through the Proverbs He is giving us His insights into life. He is providing with wisdom for life. But we need to trust Him and rely on His word – even when it may not make sense or appears as if it will rob us of pleasure. Trust Him, because He is trustworthy.

Father, thank You that You are always looking out for my best interest. You love me and are always trying to instruct me and provide me with Your truth. I know I don't always listen or obey. I don't always trust You or believe that Your way is best, because I too often do things my way instead. Forgive me. Continue to teach me. May Your Spirit continue His process of prompting me and empowering me to do Your will, Your way. Amen.

Ken Miller

Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

Leave the Results to God.

Proverbs 21

“The horse is prepared for the day of battle, but the victory belongs to the Lord.” – Proverbs 21:31 NLT

I come from the do-it-yourself generation. We are self-sufficient, independent free agents who don't need anyone or anything in our lives. We have been trained to pick ourselves up by our own boot straps and deal with our problems on our own. We have been taught to gut it up and get it done. Even as believers we tend to have a lone wolf mentality that discounts our need for others, including God. Even our spiritual formation is our job. It is all up to us. And some of us have gotten really good at living the Christian life without God. But at the end of the day, we have got to learn that the victory belongs to the Lord. It is all up to Him. We cannot live the Christian life without His help or apart from His strength. Even all the pithy proverbs we have been reading are impossible to live out apart from Him. We can't find wisdom without Him. We will never have understanding apart from Him. We will never really experience true success in life without God's help. It is impossible to be godly without God.

So, do we have our role to play in all of this? Sure. Just as verse 31 says, you have to prepare the horse for battle. You have to get ready for what is headed your way, but you also have to recognize that the outcome is completely up to God. We cannot dictate or determine outcomes. Even our best efforts and careful planning cannot guarantee success. Only God can do that. We can't do it ourselves. We can't live the Christian life alone or on our own. A big part of living the Christian life is learning to trust God for the outcomes of life. We can do everything we know to do to raise godly kids, but we are completely incapable of raising godly kids. We don't have what it takes to produce godliness in our children. Only God can do that. But we are to do our part. We are to raise them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Then we are to leave the results up to Him. We have to trust Him for the victory. We have to let Him fight our battles. We have to depend on Him, which requires that we stop trying so hard trying to be independent.

The victory is up to God. Do you believe that today or are you still trying to win your own battles in your own strength? God does not need your help. That doesn't mean that God absolves you from all effort or involvement. You have your part to play and your job to do, but the outcome is always up to Him. Rest in that assurance. Prepare for battle knowing that He goes before you and will be behind you. The outcome is in His hands and it is assured.

Father, may I learn more and more that You have the battles of my life completely in control. I do not need to worry, fret, or grow anxious. I simply need to prepare myself for the battle, then watch You work. You will use me. You will allow me to play a part, but the outcome will be completely up to You. The results do not rest on my shoulders. Thank You. Amen.

Ken Miller

Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

The Danger of Duplicity.

Proverbs 20b

“False weights and unequal measures – the Lord detests double standards of every kind.” – Proverbs 20:10 NLT

God hates hypocrisy, and so should we. Yet the double standard is not only tolerated in our society, it is admired in some cases. It has become an art form. Living the lie and masquerading as something other than what we truly are has become common place – even among Christians. And while we may fool others by our pretense and pretending, we never fool God. He sees all and He knows all. He is not impressed by our outward displays of righteousness or our Oscar-worthy performances that impress the crowds around us. He can spot duplicity and deceit of all kinds – even when we are trying to deceive others that we are truly good. God desires honesty and integrity among His people. He wants us to say what we mean and mean what we say. He wants us to keep our word and to live in such a way that our behavior is a true indication of our hearts. Dishonesty has no place in the life of a follower of Christ. Instead, "the godly walk with integrity" (Proverbs 207 NLT). The Hebrew word for integrity is tom, and it means wholeness or completeness. It can convey the idea of simplicity of mind. It is a mind with no deceit, a mind opposed to mischief and misrepresentation. A life of integrity is a life of wholeness, health and soundness. To live with integrity as a believer is to live your WHOLE life in a holy manner. It is to give God complete control over every area of your life – not just the convenient ones.

When the Proverbs talk about false weights and unequal measures, it is describing a form of double standard that is aimed at others. It is designed to take unfair advantage of another person by deceiving them. It pictures someone selling something to another person, but doing so by use of inaccurate weights and measures that makes the buyer think he is getting more than he is really paying for. It is using deception to gain an advantage. And while you may fool the other person and benefit from your actions, God is watching and He is totally opposed to such actions – especially among His people. And in time, a life of duplicity will be found out. "Even children are known by the way they act, whether their conduct is pure, and whether it is right" (Proverbs 20:11 NLT). As believers we are to have one standard, not two. We are to live according to God's standard. There is no place for a double-standard in our lives. Yet for many of us, duplicity is a daily companion. We have learned to live the lie, not intending to hurt those around us, but deceiving them all the same. When we act as if all is well and our lives are care-free, yet we are struggling with doubts and troubles of all kinds, we are being duplicitous. We are being dishonest. When we try to impress others with outward displays of spirituality, when on the inside we are wrestling with our beliefs, we are being duplicitous. When we preach to our kids about the importance of God and His Word, but we rarely spend time in it ourselves, we are being hypocrites. And our children are fine-tuned to spot it in our lives. God calls us to be honest, transparent, open and above board in our relationships with one another. No lying, no deceit, no duplicity, no double standards. We are to be a people of integrity. Not faking it for the sake of those around us, but honestly and openly living our lives knowing that "the Lord's light penetrates the human spirit, exposing every hidden motive" (Proverbs 20:27 NLT).

Father, help me live honestly and openly before You and others. Shine Your light into my life and expose the duplicity and any double-standards that may exist. Help me to live a life of integrity, wholeness and soundness before You and others. Amen.

Ken Miller

Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

Set Your Sights On Wisdom.

Proverbs 17b

“Sensible people keep their eyes glued on wisdom, but a fool's eyes wander to the ends of the earth.” – Proverbs 17:24 NLT

When reading the Proverbs it sometimes helps if you replace the word, "Wisdom" with Christ. Christ is the epitome, the personification, the embodiment of wisdom. Paul tells us, "It is because of him [God] that you are in Christ Jesus, who has become for us wisdom from God—that is, our righteousness, holiness and redemption" (1 Corinthians 1:30 NLT). Christ, because He is God, doesn't just have wisdom, He IS wisdom. It is His very nature. So when we look at verse 24 with this in mind, it gives us a new perspective. "Sensible people keep their eyes glued on Christ." This verse is talking about a person who has understanding, insight or discernment. It is NOT because they have these qualities that they keep their eyes glued on Christ. It is BECAUSE they keep their eyes glued on Christ that they have these qualities. Those who keep Christ "in front of" themselves or right in their faces are the ones who will receive understanding, insight and discernment. They will grow wiser because they have fellowship with the one who is the very wisdom of God.

The idea here is one of focus and expectation. While the godly keep Christ clearly in their sights, the foolish "wander to the ends of the earth." The fool does not seek Christ. He doesn't turn to Him for understanding, insight or discernment. Instead, he searches anywhere and everywhere hoping to find what he can only find in Christ. And the sad part is, Christ is available to the fool at any time. He is always there. He is readily findable and accessible – to anyone and everyone. He is no respecter of persons. In fact, look at verse two. It contains a subtle, yet significant message. It describes "a wise servant." That may not jump out to us, but in their day to call a servant wise would be ridiculous. It would be like an oxymoron. Wise and servant just don't seem to go together. But a common, household servant who comes to Christ would be just that. He would be wise. In Solomon's day, a servant who served Yahweh first and foremost would have been wise. He would have gained wisdom from seeking and serving God, and would have been an even better servant to his earthly master.

Christ is available, yet fools seek for understanding, insight and discernment anywhere and everywhere else. But what they discover is more foolishness. They may gain intelligence, but "eloquent words are not fitting for a fool" (Proverbs 17:7 NLT). Fools never really learn. They continue to make the same mistakes over and over again. They become easy prey for the enemy. They are prone to gossip and slander. They are attracted to evil. They use poor judgment. They bring heartbreak to their parents and are constant disappointments to their friends. All because they refuse to look to Christ. They will not focus their attention on Him. And the can be said for so many of us who call ourselves Christ-followers. We can easily take our eyes off of the one who saved us, and decide that we can now save ourselves from all that the world, the enemy and our own sinful flesh throw at us. We turn to the world for wisdom instead of Christ. And we become fools in the process. The New American Standard Bible translates verse 24, "Wisdom is in the presence of the one who has understanding." The person of understanding is the one who has made Christ his close and intimate companion. He spends a great deal of time with Christ. The wisdom of Christ has rubbed off on him. The prophet Isaiah said it this way: "You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you!"

Father, I want to keep my mind and my eyes fixed on Your Son, the one who contains all the wisdom of heaven and makes it available to me. Forgive me for taking my eyes off of Him at times, for looking to the world for understanding, insight and discernment. I know the world can't deliver. Help me to keep my thoughts fixed on Him. Amen.

Ken Miller

Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

An Antidote For Sin.

Proverbs 16b

“Unfailing love and faithfulness make atonement for sin. By fearing the Lord, people avoid evil.” – Proverbs 16:6 NLT

The book of Proverbs is like a compendium of sins, providing a running list of character traits and actions that flow from a life lived apart from God. If we're not careful, we could read the book and simply walk away thinking that we have to choose a life of sin or a life of righteousness. It's up to us to make the right choices and not the wrong ones. But NOT sinning will NOT make us righteous any more than doing good things will make us righteous. We can try and live a life marked by righteous deeds. We can attempt to say no to sin. But if we leave God out of the equation, we will inevitably fail. Man is incapable of living a righteous life on his own, and any attempts he makes to sin less will produce less-than-positive results. As is the case throughout the book of Proverbs, the fear of the Lord is the key to avoiding sin and pleasing God. It all begins with our relationship with Him. In verse 6 above, we are told that if we want to avoid sin, we have to fear God. It is not about keeping a list of dos and don'ts. More good behavior and less bad behavior does not equal righteousness. That is the formula for living a truly righteous, God-honoring life. But in this verse we do get the answer or key to living a life that pleases God and allows us to avoid sin. "Unfailing love and faithfulness make atonement for sin. By fearing the Lord, people avoid sin."

But what does that mean? The NET Bible translates the first part of this verse, "Through loyal love and truth iniquity is appeased." The word translated "appeased or atoned for" in this verse means that God's anger against sin is turned away and man’s relation to God is as though he had not sinned. Our sin requires a righteous, holy God to punish it. He is required by law to deal justly with sin, and the penalty for sin is death. But this verse tells us that if we come to God, expressing unfailing love and faithfulness to Him, which is another way of saying that we are repentant of our sin, the anger of God is appeased. Genuine repentance, demonstrated by loyalty and truthfulness, appeases the anger of God against one’s sin. But there is not a person alive who can truly atone for their own sin. Without the sacrifice of Jesus Christ on the cross, any attempt to atone for our own sins would be incomplete and insufficient to satisfy the just demands of God. But because Jesus died in our place and took all our sins upon Himself, He was able to satisfy or appease God's righteous wrath, so that God is now able to see us as righteous and sinless. Our sins were credited to Christ's account and His righteousness was credited to ours.

Now, when we sin, we can repent by turning back to God in love and faithfulness, knowing that He will forgive any sin we commit because the debt has been paid in full by His Son on the cross. We can enjoy unbroken fellowship with God the Father simply by repenting of our sin and returning to Him. This attitude of humility and willing submission to Him is the fear of the Lord lived out in daily life, and it helps us avoid additional sin. Staying close to Him keeps us far from sin. It is when we stray from His presence that we get off the path and into the high weeds of sin. The Proverbs is not a list of righteous requirements we must keep to stay on good terms with God. It is a reminder that a life of holiness begins and ends with God. It begins and ends with a relationship with Him. He alone can make us holy. Recognizing our sins and repenting of them is how we show God we fear Him and acknowledge how much we need His help for staying on course. By fearing the Lord, people avoid sin. It all begins with God.

Father, keep me on course by helping me stay repentant and dependent on You. Amen.

Ken Miller

Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

Words Of Wisdom.

Proverbs 15

“The tongue of the wise makes knowledge appealing, but the mouth of a fool belches out foolishness.” – Proverbs 15:2 NLT

Jesus once said, "But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these things defile a person. For out of the heart come evil ideas, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. These are the things that defile a person; it is not eating with unwashed hands that defiles a person" (Matthew 15:18-20 NLT). All this talk about wisdom in the book of Proverbs is really a heart issue when all is said and done. Verse 33 says, "Fear of the Lord teaches wisdom, humility precedes honor." Fear of the Lord is a matter of the heart, not the head. It is not about just a cognitive understanding of or knowledge about God. Fear of the Lord manifests itself in a heart that is changed by what it sees, hears, and learns about God. It produces humility because the heart is shaken by the magnitude and majesty of God. Fear of the Lord produces love because the heart is amazed that this great God would stoop down to show interest in the insignificant and unrighteous. Coming to grips with the reality of God changes our heart and produces a change in our behavior and our words. In the passage above, Jesus teaches us that one of the greatest indicators of the level of our fear of the Lord and of our wisdom is what comes out of our mouth. The Proverbs spend a great deal of time dealing with the role our words play in both our relationship with God and with others. Proverbs 15 talks about a gentle answer, harsh words, gentle words, evil words, the tongue, the mouth, lips, a fitting reply, saying the right thing, pure words, good news, and thinking carefully before speaking. What comes out of the mouth is so revealing. It indicates what's in the heart. It is a window into our soul. We can try and fake it, attempting to fool everyone into thinking we are filled with wisdom and righteousness, but unexpectedly, when the pressure is on or our guard is down, the wrong words can spew out before we can stop them. We can react in anger. We can curse unexpectedly. We can respond negatively. We can gossip, slander, shout, ridicule, and verbally respond in a variety of destructive ways. And when we do, it reveals the true condition of our hearts. It exposes that we are more foolish than we are wise.

We can try and blame our circumstances or the pressure of the moment for our words, but James makes it clear that the condition of our heart is responsible for the quality of our words. "Does a spring of water bubble out with both fresh water and bitter water? Does a fig tree produces olives, or a grapevine produce figs? No, and you can't draw fresh water from a salty spring." (James 3:11-12 NLT). Our words flow from an internal source. They are generated from within and they are simply a reflection of what is going on inside our heart. James goes on to say, "If you are wise and understand God's ways, prove it by living an honorable life, doing good words with the humility that comes from wisdom" (James 3:13 NLT). He goes on and differentiates between godly wisdom and earthly wisdom. "But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere. And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness" (James 3:17-18 NLT). Our words are a byproduct of our wisdom. Our wisdom is a reflection of our heart. Our heart is radically changed by a healthy fear of and humility before God. Watch what comes out of your mouth today. It will give you a good indication of just how wise you really are.

Father, I don't put enough stock in my words. I can say things that are foolish and even harmful, then simply write it off and blame it on my circumstances. But help me to understand that my words come from inside me. They are not caused by what happens to me. Give me an ability to listen to myself today so that I might hear my words the way You hear them. Then help me fear You more. Amen.

Ken Miller

Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

Running Your Own Life Will Only Ruin It.

Proverbs 14

“There is a path before each person that seems right, but it ends in death.” – Proverbs 14:12 NLT

The book of Proverbs is all about two paths or ways of life. One is committed to living life according to God's terms, while the other is pictured by the self-made, self-reliant, self-directed individual who rejects God's way as the best way. The Proverbs are not presenting two equally viable alternatives to living life. You can't expect to choose either option and get the same results. In the end, it all goes back to the fear of God. "Those who follow the right path fear the Lord; those who take the wrong path despise him" (Proverbs 14:2 NLT). The fear of the Lord is all about humility in the face of God's glory. It is an awareness of His majesty, holiness, and power and our own inadequacy. Only a fool would look at God and decide to run his own life because he knows better. Only a self-consumed egomaniac would reject God's way for his own, arrogantly thumbing his nose in the face of God and stubbornly walking right into destruction. "The wise are cautious and avoid danger, fools plunge ahead with reckless confidence" (Proverbs 14:16 NLT).

Man is so prideful that he would rather suffer the consequences that come with self-rule than give up his precious autonomy. It reminds me of the lyrics to the song made famous by Frank Sinatra, "I Did It My Way." That song could be the official anthem of the human race. We stand before God and shout, "I did what I had to do and saw it through without exemption. I planned each charted course, each careful step along the byway. And more, much more than this, I did it my way." Doing it our way is more important to most of us than doing it the right way. We will stubbornly cling to our right to be wrong. We will painfully pound our heads against the wall of God's righteousness rather than submit to His will and accept His way as the only right way to live. And in doing so, we miss out on His love, mercy, grace, and divine plan for a better life. Our obsession with self-rule ends up in our own self-destruction.

The closing lines of the song, "I Did It My Way" are sobering and provide a very insightful look at the stubbornness of sin.

For what is a man, what has he got? If not himself, then he has naught To say the things he truly feels and not the words of one who kneels The record shows I took the blows and did it my way! Yes, it was my way

What a sad picture of the foolishness of man. Rather than kneel before God and admit His majesty and power, men would rather stand tall and take the blows – all so they could do it their way. They find God's way restrictive and stifling. His offer of peace, rest, and salvation from sin appears unattractive and even unnecessary to them. They are deceived by the offers of this world and the lies of the enemy. They choose compromise over conviction every time. Jesus told us it would be this way. He warned us that few would choose the path God offers. "You can enter God’s Kingdom only through the narrow gate. The highway to hell is broad, and its gate is wide for the many who choose that way. But the gateway to life is very narrow and the road is difficult, and only a few ever find it" (Matthew 7:13-14 NLT). The way God provides IS restrictive, narrow, and demanding. It demands that you abandon your own way and go His. It requires that you trust God's way as the right way. It unapologetically expects you to fear God and humbly, dependently follow Him, believing He knows what's best for your life. You can do it your way or you can kneel before God and do it His way.

Father, far too often in my life I have chosen to follow my way over Yours. Forgive me for that. I have no business ever thinking that I know what's best for my life. Doing things my way always ends up badly. Yet when I trust You and walk according to Your way, the results are always right. Even in the midst of difficulty, I am able to have peace because I know I can trust You. You know what's best for me. Amen.

Ken Miller

Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

Choose Your Friends Wisely.

Proverbs 13b

“Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.” – Proverbs 13:20 NLT

What if you were to read the Proverbs as if our heavenly Father was writing these words specifically to us as His children? Consider the possibility that these are not really the words of Solomon to his son, but the counsel of God to His people. And they are far more than just simple maxims for life, but the divine advice of a wise and all-knowing God who is trying to equip His children to live life in this world. God knows there are two types of people in this world: Those who seek after Him and benefit from that relationship by gaining wisdom, knowledge, understanding, insight and common sense; and those who reject Him, living their lives as if He doesn't exist and attempting to navigate life on their own wits and wherewithal.

God seems to be telling us to choose our friends carefully because they will have a tremendous influence on our lives. Those with whom we choose to spend our lives will end up impacting our lives in a dramatic manner – either positively or negatively. So choose wisely. In fact, God tells us that if we walk with the wise we will become more wise. The Hebrew word for walk is halak, and it can mean "to live your life." It is as if God is saying, "If you want to increase in wisdom, as you go about your daily life, associate with wise people who love God." Who we choose to surround ourselves with will play a major part in whether we end up more godly or less. This is not a command to completely disassociate ourselves from ungodly people, but to recognize that there is a potential danger in making them the primary relationships in our lives. But I really think that God is warning us to stay away from those who claim to be Christ-followers but who live like fools, ignoring the wisdom of God and choosing to live as if He doesn't really exist. These people are a real danger to our faith walk. They appear to be like-minded, going to church and going through the motions of religious activity. But for all intents and purposes, they live as if God doesn't exist. They ignore His Word, they refuse to listen to His commands, they love the world more than they do Him, and they rely on the wisdom of this world more than they do the wisdom available through an intimate relationship with God the Father. The danger of surrounding ourselves with these kinds of "fools" is that we feel safe. They make us feel comfortable. They say all the right things. They go to church. They pray. They may even go to Bible study with us. But in the end, they are pretenders. They talk a good game, but don't walk the talk. They will slowly and subtly lull us into a sense of spiritual complacency. God warns us, "Associate with fools and get in trouble." These people are a bad influence. They want all the blessings that God has to offer, but are to lazy to seek them (Proverbs 13:4, 11). They leave behind a wake of shame and disgrace from their actions (Proverbs 13:5). They are too proud to take advice (Proverbs 13:10, 13, 18). They are dangerously impulsive and lack discernment (Proverbs 13:16). They never see their hopes and dreams come about because they refuse to turn from evil (Proverbs 13:12, 19). They seemed plagued by trouble (Proverbs 13:21).

Why would you associate with people like this? Because they seem pleasant enough. They are good-natured, fun-loving, easy-going, and lower the bar of expectation so that you feel good about yourself. They don't challenge you, correct you, push you, inspire you, or encourage you to greater things. They are content to live in spiritual mediocrity. But if you choose to surround yourself with the wise, you will inherently grow wiser. The wise are those who love God and who humbly live their lives in dependence upon Him. They are not perfect, but simply driven to know God better and better. They realize they can't live the Christian life without Him. These kind of people inspire us, encourage us, uphold us, and sometimes even admonish us. They refuse to accept second-best from us. They are the ones who are growing in their knowledge of the Word. They pray for us. They confess sin to us. They are humble, selfless, kind, encouraging, inspiring, and sometimes even intimidating. But when we're around them, we can't help but want more out of life. So who have you surrounded yourself with? What kind of people are having the greatest impact and influence on your life? Choose your friends wisely.

Father, thank You for placing wise, godly friends in my life. Continue to help me select my friends carefully. They will play a significant role in helping me stay steady and on course as I live my life in this fallen world. Amen.

Ken Miller

Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

God's Way: A Blessing and A Curse.

Proverbs 10b

"The way of the Lord is a stronghold to those with integrity, but it destroys the wicked." – Proverbs 10:29 NLT

Whether you believe in God or not has nothing to do with whether He exists or not. He exists and He is consistently God. He has a way about Him that impacts the life of every human being, regardless of whether they worship or ignore Him. God's character is consistent and unchanging. He doesn't surprise you by acting differently on one day than He did the day before. His "way" is reliable. Think of it like gravity. Gravity has a "way" about it. It is consistently the same, always influencing the lives of men equally and equitably. As long as you understand the "way" of gravity, you'll do just fine. In fact, you will survive. But if you attempt to ignore gravity and act as it it doesn't exist or have any influence over you, it will probably not go well with you. Whether you admit it or like it, you are under the influence of gravity each and every day of your life. As you walk around, you are being controlled by gravity. If you attempt to fly off the side of a cliff, you will find out just how real and powerful gravity can be.

In the same way, men and women who refuse to believe in God, attempt to live their lives as if He does not exist. They refuse to acknowledge and obey His "way." They ignore His laws and commands. They want to act as if He is not even there. But like gravity, God does not go away. He is ALWAYS influencing the lives of men – both believing and non-believing. But there is real benefit to understanding God and His ways. When we learn to fear God for who He is and what He can do, we learn humility. We understand our powerlessness in the face of His infinite power. We learn to respect and appreciate Him for all that He does for us. For millenniums, mankind has tended to see gravity as restrictive. It kept us down and prevented us from soaring with the eagles. But in reality, it was the power that allowed us to survive on this planet. It literally kept us grounded. God is the same way. He is the power that keeps us grounded in life. In this chapter of Proverbs we have a long list of maxims and reminders of the benefits that come to those who recognize God for who He is, understand His ways and live according to them. We are told that they will not go hungry (10:3), they will be showered with blessings (10:6), they will be remembered well when they are gone (10:7), they accept instruction and discipline gladly (10:8, 17), walk safely (10:9), speak wisely (10:11, 13, 20-21, 31-32), treasure knowledge (10:14), enjoy the benefit of their labor (10:16), enjoy God's blessing (10:22), find pleasure in living wisely (10:23), have their hopes fulfilled (10:24), survive the storms of life (10:25), experience happiness (10:28), and live life with an unwavering confidence in God regardless of what happens to them (10:30). But what about the ungodly? You can go back and read what happens to them, but I think you already know. If you choose to ignore God's way, you will suffer the consequences. You can choose to believe He doesn't exist, but it doesn't make Him go away, and it doesn't free you from His influence.

Father, You have made Yourself known to mankind in so many ways, but yet the majority of us on this planet still refuse to acknowledge Your existence. There are still millions upon millions of people who want to act as if You don't exist or matter. But even more sadly, there are far too many of us who claim to believe in You who still refuse to live according to Your way. Open our eyes and help us see the tremendous benefits that come from living according to Your way. Amen

Ken Miller Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

The Folly Of False Advertising.

Proverbs 9b

"Stolen water is refreshing; food eaten in secret tastes the best!" – Proverbs 9:17 NLT

Prior to entering the ministry, I spent 29 years in the advertising industry as a graphic designer. I loved everything about advertising and marketing. I enjoyed the problem-solving aspect of the business and coming up with creative ways to market products to specific audiences in order to increase sales. But one of the dangers inherent in the industry is the temptation to present a product or service in a way that either obscures and ignores its faults or enhances and overly inflates its attributes. Sadly to say, it's a common practice because increased sales drive everything, including ethics, at times. But if you've ever been a victim of false advertising, you know how frustrating it can be. You buy a product on good faith, only to find out that it can't deliver on the promises made when you bought it. Your investment ends up being a big disappointment. The same could be said of sin. Satan is called the father of lies and he is an expert at manipulating the facts in order to present his product in the most favorable light. He is adept at advertising sin in such a way that it not only sounds appealing, but indispensable. Solomon was well aware of this fact. Over and over again in the Proverbs he warns of the dangers of false advertising. But he isn't dealing with products that fail to live up to their expectation. He's warning against the moral failure that inevitably comes as a result of our own lack of discernment in the face of the enemy's alluring offers. Solomon talks a lot about the promiscuous or adulterous woman. He describes her words as seductive. He says her lips are as sweet as honey, and her mouth as smoother than oil. She seduces with pretty speech and entices with flattery. And because they lack discernment, men fall prey to her tactics, taking the lure and reaping the results of their own stupidity. Solomon describes folly in a similar manner, describing it as a woman calling out to those who lack judgment, "Stolen water is refreshing; food eaten in secret tastes the best!" (Proverbs 9:17 NLT). It sounds so true, so appealing, so tantalizingly logical. But it's a lie. Temptation is always tempting, otherwise it would have no impact on us. And our enemy, Satan, knows our weaknesses. He is fully aware of the chinks in our armor. He knows what will tempt each of us and that is where he focuses his attention. He understands human nature and he appeals to our basest instincts and tries to take advantage of our sin natures. As in all advertising, Satan knows the key to success is figuring out how to appeal to our insatiable pride. So he flatters us, distracts us, manipulates and deceives us. He promises to give us what only God can provide. He offers us satisfaction, significance, and success. He guarantees us happiness. But the results are always the same: disappointment, disillusionment and, ultimately, death.

But wisdom calls out, "Come, eat my food, and drink the wine I have mixed. Leave you simple ways behind, and begin to live; learn to use good judgment" (Proverbs 9:6 NLT). God offers us true satisfaction, real success, and lasting significance – in Him. Don't buy the lie. Listen to God. Answer His call. You'll never be disappointed.

Father, give me the capacity to see through the subtle lies of the enemy. Don't let me fall prey to his false advertisements. Only You can deliver what I need. Teach me to trust You. Amen

Ken Miller Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

All You Need.

Proverbs 8

"I, Wisdom, live together with good judgment. I know where to discover knowledge and discernment." – Proverbs 8:12 NLT

Wisdom, the very personification of God, calls out indiscriminately to anyone and everyone who will listen. Wisdom stands at the very crossroads of life, calling out to everyone who passes by. The simple and foolish get special attention. Their very nature prevents them from having good judgment and making wise choices. They are naive, incapable of seeing their own inadequacies and their vulnerability to danger because of their lack of wisdom. They pride themselves on their open-mindedness, unaware that this trait leaves them susceptible to all kinds of lies and deception. Wisdom offers them truth in place of falsehood, wholesome advice instead of the unhealthy counsel of this world. The benefits of God's wisdom are priceless and far more valuable in the end than any kind of earthly treasure man could pursue. And wisdom comes with a bonus offer. Get wisdom and you also get good judgment, knowledge, discernment, common sense and insight – all at no extra cost!

Wisdom is far more than just some kind of knowledge or ability we receive from God so we can live more successfully. It is the very essence of God. It is part of His nature. God used His wisdom to create the world. The wisdom of God was instrumental in forming the oceans, heavens, mountains, and even mankind. "I was the architect by his side. I was his constant delight, rejoicing always in his presence" (Proverbs 8:30 NLT). Wisdom and God are inseparable. One does not exist without the other. The wisdom talked about in these Proverbs is the very wisdom of God – eternal, divine, endless, complete, inexhaustible, and unavailable anywhere else. God is offering us His wisdom – the same wisdom He used to form the world and the universe. Find it and you have everything you need for life. "For whoever finds me finds life and receives favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 8:35 NLT). God's wisdom calls to us from the pages of Scripture every day of our lives. He offers His divine wisdom through His inspired Word. As believers we have His Holy Spirit living within us, helping us understand and apply the wisdom of God to our everyday lives. But receiving the wisdom of God begins with a healthy awe for God and a willing obedience to do what He says simply because of who He is. If His wisdom resulted in the universe and all that's within it, surely it can help us navigate the affairs of everyday life. The wisdom of God is all we need. But are we truly convinced of that fact? Until we are, we will really never seek it or value it in our lives.

Father, Your wisdom is all I need, but I confess that there are far too many times when I think I need other things more. Whether it's pleasure, or money, or popularity, I can find a lot of things I value more than Your wisdom. I can find a lot of things to do rather than spend time in Your Word searching for Your truth and seeking Your wisdom. Help me understand that there is nothing else I need in this world than what I can get from You. Amen

Ken Miller Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

The Protective Power Of Wisdom.

Proverbs 7

"Love wisdom like a sister; make insight a beloved member of your family. Let them protect you from an affair with an immoral woman, from listening to the flattery of a promiscuous woman." – Proverbs 7:4-5 NLT

Godly wisdom has its benefits. That may sound like an understatement or an extreme case of overstating the obvious, but in either case, it's true. When we seek God and follow His ways, we gain an extreme advantage in this life. Without Him, we are left vulnerable to the temptations that are guaranteed to come our way as we live our lives on this planet. Solomon knew that and so he went out of his way to teach his sons to seek the wisdom and insight God had to offer them. In this Proverb he warns his sons in very graphic detail about the one temptation that faces just about every member of the male side of the species: The adulterous woman. He uses a story to illustrate for his sons just how susceptible they will be without the wisdom and insight that God provides. He describes "some naive young men, and one in particular who lacked common sense" (Proverbs 7:7 NLT). The Hebrew word translated "naive" here can also mean "open-minded, one easily persuaded or enticed." These young men lacked the capacity to defend themselves from temptation. They were naturally open-minded or, in a way, empty-headed, unable to say no to the tempting offers this world throws at every young man. One of the young men, who becomes the focus of Solomon's story, was "void of understanding" according to the King James version. He lacked common sense. He didn't have any wisdom from God that would warn him of the dangers that lie ahead. So when the adulterous woman spotted him walking by her house, she pounced. One of the first things that should jump out at us is the face that this young man was in the wrong place at the wrong time. It says, "He was crossing the street near the house of an immoral woman, strolling down the path by her house" (Proverbs 7:8 NLT). He had not business being there. Yet Solomon describes him as "strolling" along, completely unaware of just how much danger he was in. Without the wisdom of God, he was going to find himself defenseless to the temptations headed his way. He was going to buy into the flattering words from this woman's lips that to a wise man would have been obvious lies. "You're the one I was looking for!," she would say, and "like an ox going to the slaughter," he would believer her. He would be easily seduced by her "pretty speech" and suffer the devastating consequences of his mistake.

But he would not be alone. "For she has been the ruin of many; many men have been her victims" (Proverbs 7:26 NLT). The list of names of the men who have found themselves victims of this temptation is long and it continues to grow. All because men continue to reject the wisdom that God offers. Even so-called godly men fall prey to the adulterous woman because they reject the wisdom God offers them. They refuse to listen to His Word. Instead. hey choose to give in to their desires and satisfy their natural pleasures. They live for the moment and seek to meet the needs of their flesh, rather than live in the power of the Spirit. The wisdom of God could protect them, but they refuse to listen. Wisdom has its benefits, but only if we take advantage of all it has to offer. We have to want the wisdom of God more than we want the pleasures of this world.

Father, protect me and protect my sons through Your wisdom. Give us insight and understanding of the world in which we live. Give us the capacity to see through the subtle lies of the enemy that come against us each and every day as men. May we stand strong in Your power and equipped with Your wisdom. Amen

Ken Miller Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

Learning to Hate What God Hates.

Proverbs 6b

"There are six things the Lord hates — no, seven things he detests…" – Proverbs 6:16 NLT

There are many in our world who refuse to believe in God. There are others who believe in God, but their version of Him is of their own making. They have chosen attributes and qualities they find comforting and non-convicting. They worship a God who is nothing but love, all the time. They tend to reject the God of the Old Testament as some other God. He is too angry, vengeful, and barbaric for their tastes. The prefer the God of the New Testament who sends His Son to die for mankind as an expression of His love for them. But when we reject the God of the Old Testament, we diminish the One we say we believe in. God is loving, but He is righteous and just as well. He is holy and, because of that character, He is required to deal with all unholiness. He must judge sin justly and completely. And God hates sin – all sin. As uncomfortable as it may make us feel, our God hates. Multiple times in the book of Proverbs we are reminded of His divine hatred. But we must never confuse God's hatred with our own. His is perfect, holy, sinless, and completely justified. He understands the danger of sin and the damage it can produce in our lives. So Solomon tells us that there are six things the Lord hates – no seven things he detests. He hates them because they are an abomination to Him. He finds them shameful, unacceptable, and abhorrent.

We expect the list that follows this statement to be filled with some pretty horrible acts, like murder, rape, incest, genocide, etc. But instead, we read that God hates haughty or pride-filled eyes, lying, those who take life without cause, a heart that plans to do evil, feet that race to do wrong, a false witness, and one who stirs up trouble within a family. Interesting list, isn't it? Only one seems to be what we would classify as worthy of hate, because it involves the taking of an innocent person's life. But I think Solomon is showing us that, in God's eyes, all of these things are hated equally because they are all detestable to Him. He hates the pride in our lives as much as He does the taking of innocent an life. All of these things are in violation of God's law. He hates them because He is holy and righteous. His anger is His reaction to the breaking of His perfect law. As a just judge, He must deal with them rightly and righteously. Solomon is fully aware that his God hates sin and he wants his son to know it as well. So he warns him that these things are an abomination to God. They are not to be tolerated, played with, excused or minimized. When we see pride in our lives, we must remind ourselves that God hates it. When we lie, we must remember that God hates it. When we find ourselves thinking about doing anything that God deems wrong, or running ahead and doing it without even thinking, we must never forget that God hates it. God will not wink at it or ignore it like we do. His holy character will not allow it. He hates them because He knows their destructive quality and that each of them is really an assault on His sovereignty over our lives. He wants us to learn to hate what He hates and love what He loves. He wants us to know Him well enough that we share His heart. He wants us to get to the point in our relationship with Him that what He abhors, we abhor. Recognizing that God has high standards and a zero-tolerance for these things is key to wanting to work hand-in-hand with the Holy Spirit to see them removed from our lives. Our cry becomes the cry of David, "Create in my a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me" (Psalm 51:10 NLT).

Father, teach me to hate what You hate, to abhor what You find abhorrent. Don't let me become complacent with sin in my life or in the world around me. Let me know Your heart and learn to love what You love and hate what You hate. Amen

Ken Miller Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

The Delight of Discipline.

Proverbs 3b

"My child, don’t reject the Lord’s discipline, and don’t be upset when he corrects you. For the Lord corrects those he loves, just as a father corrects a child in whom he delights." – Proverbs 3:11-12 NLT

The painful truth is, some of our most profitable times of learning have come through seasons of suffering. We tend to grow from our mistakes, learn valuable lessons from difficulties, and become stronger when we are at our weakest. As believers we have a unique advantage over those who have no faith in God. We, of all people, should understand that God loves us and is on a mission to transform us into the likeness of His Son. He is transforming us from the inside out, and the truth is that He uses trials and troubles in this life to accomplish His work in our lives. Being a believer does not exempt us from trouble. In fact, Jesus promised we would have trials and tribulations. Why? Because, like Him, we are aliens and strangers living in a land in which we no longer belong. We are not of this world anymore. Our differences will lead to difficulties and conflicts with the inhabitants of this world. There will be painful encounters as a result of trying to live for God in a godless environment.

But there will also be times when we suffer because of our own stupidity. We will do things that are not in line with God's will. Like stubborn children, we will disobey Him and attempt to live our lives according to our own standards. In other words, we will sin. And when we do, God, because He is righteous and just, will be forced to correct us. He will lovingly discipline us. And when He does, we need to see it for what it is: A loving Father correcting His child because He knows what is best. Solomon told his son the same thing. But whether our suffering is coming as a result of living in a fallen world or because of our own sin, we need to have a perspective that sees God right in the middle of our lives, lovingly protecting and correcting us – all because He cares for us. Solomon also told His son, "Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take" (Proverbs 3:6 NLT). Solomon was wise enough to know that the best way to avoid correction was to live obediently. Do things God's way. "Don't be impressed with your own wisdom" (Proverbs 3:7 NLT). Don't but the lie that you know what's best for your life. Apart from God, we are all fools, living our lives in arrogance and ignorance. But because God loves us, He will not tolerate our foolish behavior, but will step in and discipline and correct us. And when He does, we need to understand that it is an opportunity for us to grow in wisdom, knowledge and understanding. We truly can learn from our mistakes. Our own sins, if we are teachable, can end up making us wiser. Rather than waste our suffering, we can benefit from it. But it takes a perspective that sees God's hand of correction in it all and accepts His discipline as the best thing for us. The next time you find yourself in a season of suffering, ask God what He wants to teach you. Ask Him to show You what you don't know about Him, yourself, and life in general. Ask Him to reveal your ignorance and replace it with His wisdom. Times of trials can be great seasons of learning.

Father, You love me enough to correct me. You never take Your eyes off of me. You know my heart even when I don't have the capacity to understand what is motivating my behavior. Help me to see You even in the midst of difficulties. Help me to learn the lessons You have to teach me. I know I am going to make mistakes. I am going to sin against You. And I know You are going to correct me, but it will always be motivated by love, not anger. It will be corrective, not just punitive. Your goal will be to make me better, not to simply punish me. Thank You for that assurance. Amen

Ken Miller Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

The Benefits of Godliness.

Proverbs 2b

“For the Lord grants wisdom! From his mouth come knowledge and understanding. He grants a treasure of common sense to the honest.” – Proverbs 2:6-7 MSG

Proverb 1:7 tells us fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge. The Message reads, "Start with God – the first step in learning is bowing down to GOD." And now, in Proverbs 2 we read the why. Because He grants wisdom. He is the source of all knowledge and understanding. Only God can give common sense. But all of these things are granted based on a relationship with Him. It says He grants common sense to the honest. He is s shield to those who walk with integrity. He guards the paths of the just and protects those who are faithful to Him. This is not talking about a performance-based relationship. In other words, Solomon is not telling us that we have to earn the right to receive wisdom by being honest, by living with integrity, being just and faithful. This is speaking of a reciprocal relationship in which, as followers of God, we receive His character and nature when we seek Him and serve Him. We become like the One we worship. Solomon begs his child to turn their ears to wisdom, concentrate on understanding, cry out for insight, ask for understanding, and to search for them as if they were silver and seek them like they were hidden treasures. But we have to seek them from the only source for them – God. Solomon says that when we make the pursuit of God our highest priority in order to receive wisdom, understanding and knowledge from God, THEN we will understand what it means to fear the Lord. In my desire to receive wisdom, understanding and knowledge from God, I will have to listen to Him. I will have to develop an intimate relationship with Him. His Word will teach me, convict me, reveal the truth about me, and clearly communicate His expectations of me. I will discover more and more about His holiness and my own sinfulness. I will learn to fear Him for who He is. The relationship will become the priority and wisdom, knowledge and understanding will become the byproduct of that relationship. We tend to want wisdom for our own selfish purposes. We desire knowledge so that we can benefit from it. We think greater understanding will somehow benefit us in this life. And they will, but the real point of it all is that we are receiving wisdom from God that will protect us from the foolishness of this world. We receive the understanding of God so that we have a clearer picture of life lived with Him as the center, not me. We get a healthy dose of godly knowledge so that we can see the world and our lives from His perspective, unhindered by the warped perspectives of sin.

When we seek God, we always benefit. When we make Him our highest priority, He gives us more than we could ever expect. We gain an understanding of what is right, just and fair. We inherently know the right way to go. Wisdom enters our hearts, knowledge fills us with joy, wise choices watch over us, and understanding keeps us safe. The life of godliness has its rewards. There are tremendous benefits from seeking and serving God. He is a rewarder of those who seek Him. Start with God.

Father, thank You for all the benefits and blessings you give to those who make You the highest priority in their lives. We bring nothing to the table but our humble faith in You, but You give us so much in return. It pays to start with You. Amen.

Ken Miller

Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

Start With God.

Proverbs 1

“Start with GOD -- the first step in learning is bowing down to GOD; only fools thumb their noses at such wisdom and learning.” – Proverbs 1:7 MSG

Solomon makes it perfectly clear why he is taking the time to pen the Proverbs. "Their purpose is to teach people wisdom and knowledge, to help them understand the insights of the wise. Their purpose is to teach people to live disciplined and successful lives, to help them do what is right, just, and fair. These proverbs will give insight to the simple, knowledge and discernment to the young…" (Proverbs 1:2-4 NLT). It sounds as if Solomon is putting together a self-help manual aimed at teaching people how to get smarter so that they can be more successful in life. But then he qualifies his purpose statement with a non-negotiable requirement. It all begins with a healthy fear of God. The Proverbs are not just a collection of wise and pithy statements designed to increase our wisdom and improve our lives, they are a reminder to make God the focus of our lives. He is the sole source of wisdom, knowledge and understanding. He alone gives insight to the simple and knowledge and discernment to the young. The wisdom described in the Proverbs is a byproduct of a relationship with God. It cannot be achieved any other way. Ignoring God will leave us ignorant. When Solomon says that fools despise wisdom and discipline, he is describing those who reject God. By turning their back on God and refusing to live according to His terms, they reject the very things they need to succeed in this life. They miss out on the wisdom, knowledge and understanding He alone can provide. But it all begins with a fear of God. The NET Bible describes the fear of the Lord this way: "The fear of the Lord is the foundation for wisdom (9:10) and the discipline leading to wisdom (15:33). It is expressed in hatred of evil (8:13) and avoidance of sin (16:6), and so results in prolonged life (10:27; 19:23)." The fear of the Lord is marked by an understanding of who God is – His holiness, righteousness, wrath, justice, power, sovereignty, love, grace and mercy. To fear God is to show Him reverence and awe. It is an acknowledgement of His majesty and might. It is a recognition of His holiness and hatred of sin. A healthy fear of God prevents us from taking God for granted and treating Him with contempt.

Solomon describes those who refuse to fear God as simpleminded, mockers, and fools. "They hated knowledge and chose not to fear the Lord" (Proverbs 1:29 NLT). To refuse to fear God is to refuse all that God has to offer – including wisdom, knowledge and understanding. Those who reject God "must eat the bitter fruit of living their own way, choking on their own schemes" (Proverbs 1:31 NLT). No one plans to live his life as a fool. Every person on the planet wants to live wisely and successfully. But unless they seek God and start with Him, they will never achieve their goal. "For simpletons turn away from me – to death. Fools are destroyed by their own complacency. But all who listen to me will live in peace, untroubled by fear of harm" (Proverbs 1:32-33 NLT). Wisdom is an attribute of God. He is all-knowing, all-wise. All that there is to know and understand is found in Him. Find Him and You will discover all you need to live a disciplined and successful life.

Father, all that I need for life is found in You. There is no wisdom available any other place. Understanding and knowledge are only available through a vibrant, submissive relationship with You. It all starts and ends with You. Amen.

Ken Miller

Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

The Beauty of Character.

Proverbs 31

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.” – Proverbs 31:30 NLT

In a society obsessed with outer beauty, it pays to be reminded that God looks at the heart. He is not impressed with externals. He does not measure our value based on our good looks or how impressive we may appear. God is all about inner character. He sees what others too often fail to see and what most of us even fail to look for. In this famous Proverb, King Lemuel describes a most impressive woman. She is industrious, a successful businesswoman, a loving mother, a highly disciplined worker, a caring friend, and a dedicated wife. In fact, this woman is almost too good to be true. But I don't think the point of this Proverb is to hold up this unnamed woman as a model for all women to follow. I think the point is to remind us that it is our character that counts. It is what's inside that gives us our value. This woman's industry and hard work are laudable, but they are not the point. Hard work can simply become another form of idol worship, leading to workaholism and self-sufficiency. While King Lemuel describes this woman as dressing in fine linen and purple gowns, he says, "She is clothed with dignity and strength" (Proverbs 31:25 NLT). Her inner character was outwardly visible in the manner in which she lived her life. She worked hard out of love for her family, not out of love for self. She was industrious because she cared for others more than she cared for herself. This woman feared God. She had a reverence for God that drove her actions and determined her attitude about everything. Verse 10 describes her as "virtuous." That word really has to do with inner strength. She was trustworthy, good, hard-working, discerning, compassionate, giving, humble, wise, kind, loving, and worthy of praise from both her children and her husband. Why? Because she had inner beauty that was far more than skin deep. It was the byproduct of time spent with God. If some of us, both men and women, spent more time in the Word and less time in the gym or in front of the mirror, we would exhibit more of the character qualities this woman possessed. If we cared more about the condition of our souls than we did about our bodies, we would be far more attractive to the world around us. "Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman [or man] who lives in the Fear-of-GOD" (Proverbs 31:30 MSG).

Father, we obsess over the outside. We spend far too much time worrying about how we appear when we should be thinking about who we really are on the inside. Renew our perspective. Give us a greater desire to be transformed from the inside out. Help us to fear You more and desire what is important to You. Amen.

Ken Miller

Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

Knowing God.

Proverbs 30

“I am weary, O God; I am weary and worn out, O God.I am too stupid to be human, and I lack common sense.I have not mastered human wisdom, nor do I know the Holy One.” – Proverbs 30:1-3 NLT

In reading the book of Proverbs it would be easy to focus on what appear to be the main themes or topics of the book: Wisdom, knowledge and understanding. There is a natural tendency to make the gaining of these three things are sole or primary objective. After all, no one wants to be a fool, so it would only make sense to make the gaining of wisdom, knowledge and understanding our goal. But if we do that we miss the real objective of this book. If you recall, in the very first chapter of Solomon reminds us that "Fear of the Lord is the foundation of true knowledge" (Proverbs 1:7 NLT). In other words, while wisdom, knowledge and understanding are worthy objectives, they are only available through a right relationship with God. The Message paraphrases Proverbs 1:7 this way: "Start with God — the first step in learning is bowing down to God." We must start with God. It all begins with Him. In Proverbs 30, we read the words of Agur, who says, "I am weary, O God; I am weary and worn out, O God. I am too stupid to be human, and I lack common sense. I have not mastered human wisdom, nor do I know the Holy One" (Proverbs 30:2-3 NLT). When we fail to start with God, and we neglect getting to truly know Him for who He is, we end up worn out, and lacking in the very things we need to survive and thrive in this world: wisdom, knowledge and understanding.

When we make getting to know God our objective, we discover the true source of all wisdom. He is the creator of all things. His wisdom and knowledge are beyond our comprehension, yet He makes Himself known to us when we seek Him. He gives us His Word and it is completely reliable and true. Growing in our knowledge of God gives us a greater understanding of ourselves – our weaknesses, limitations, sinful tendencies and our total dependence on Him. Getting to know God gives us a new perspective on life. It changes our priorities, which is why Agur could say, "O God, I beg two favors from you; let me have them before I die. First, help me never to tell a lie. Second, give me nether poverty nor riches! Give me just enough to satisfy my needs. For if I grow rich, I may deny you and say, 'Who is the Lord!' And if I am too poor, I may steal and thus insult God's holy name" (Proverbs 30:7-9 NLT). Growing in our knowledge of who God is refocuses our priorities and puts Him at the center of our lives. When we begin to understand just how much God hates pride, we will no longer desire to see it in our own lives. When we see it in others, we are turned off by it. We understand the danger of pride, arrogance, and over-inflated self-worth in our children. A growing knowledge of God will expose the ever-present danger of gluttony in our lives – in all its forms. We are prone to discontentment and incessantly desire more and more of just about everything, including pleasure, food, attention, accolades, money, power, etc. Like the leech, we cry out, "More, more!" A person who has an intimate understanding of God is able to see through the facade of temptation and spot the dangers that lurk behind the lure. The fool is simply that person who doesn't know God and, as a result, lacks in wisdom, knowledge, understanding and basic common sense. Like Agur, they end up weary from trying to live life in this world with nothing but their own human understanding to rely on. That's why it pays to start with God. The first step in learning is bowing down to God. He is the key to life.

Father, I want to start with You. I want to bow down to You and make You my goal, not wisdom, knowledge and understanding. They are byproducts of a growing relationship with You. Don't let me make them my focus. Instead, help me keep my eyes on You. Amen.

Ken Miller

Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org

Cultivating True Community.

Proverbs 27

“Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.” – Proverbs 27:6 NLT

Let's face it. Relationships are messy. Living with others can be difficult at times. But there is a huge advantage to living in true biblical community. And the Proverbs have a lot to say about the impact of wisdom and foolishness on our relationships. A fool is self-centered and myopic, only thinking about himself and tends to live with a certain level of insensitivity. He doesn't think about how his words and actions will impact those around him. He doesn't even care. But a man or woman of wisdom understands their responsibility to care about and care for those around them and the live accordingly. Those who live in true community understand that words are powerful. They know that there will be times when words of encouragement are needed, but also times when a word of warning or rebuke is necessary. In a healthy relationship to withhold a much-deserved rebuke is as wrong as refusing to express our love verbally.  "An open rebuke is better than hidden love" (Proverbs 27:5 NLT). While correction and criticism is never easy to receive, a true friend will care enough about us to tell us the hard truth. "Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy" (Proverbs 27:6 NLT). Fools will tell us what we want to hear. They will tell us how wonderful we think we are, but overlook the faults in our lives that are preventing us from being who God wants us to be. False flattery is deadly. It puffs us up and gives us a false sense of confidence and feeds our self-righteousness. But a true friend will tell us the truth, even if it hurts. "As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend" (Proverbs 27:17 NLT). Friendships should involve friction. But it should productive friction. As we rub up against one another in our relationships there should be a certain give-and-take that allows us to push, prod, and pull each other towards increasing righteousness.

Many of our relationships are shallow and dishonest. We refuse to speak truth into one another's lives. We openly tolerate godlessness and flatter one another with words of kindness when what we really need is a swift kick in the pants and a dose of reality. But many of us are afraid to play hardball in our relationships because we fear what others may say about how we live our lives. We're afraid that if we critique someone else's life, it will leave the door open for them to return the favor. And we're exactly right – it will. And we should welcome it. The truth is, most of us have no idea what we're really like. We can't see our faults and weaknesses. Our foolish friends will leave us thinking we don't have any. But a true friend will point them out in a loving, caring way, and help us take steps to correct them. They are able to look into our lives and see our heart, something we can't do on our own. "As a face is reflected in water, so the heart reflects the real person" (Proverbs 27:19 NLT). We need one another. We need real relationships that produce real life change. True biblical community is messy. It involves transparency, accountability, honesty, humility, patience and love. It takes work, but it is worth it. Cultivating true community has long-term, real-life benefits. "Never abandon a friend – either yours or your father's. When disaster strikes, you won't have to ask your brother for assistance. It's better to go to a neighbor than to a brother who lives far away" (Proverbs 27:10 NLT).

Father, You designed us for community, but what most of us experience in our relationships isn't even close to what You had in mind. We are fake, shallow, dishonest and far too tolerant of ungodly behavior in one another. Give us a boldness to live in true community. Give us a desire to live in righteous relationships where we truly sharpen one another like iron sharpens iron. Amen.

Ken Miller

Grow Pastor & Minister to Men kenm@christchapelbc.org